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Note: This article has been narrated by Victor Pride. Press the play button below to listen while you read. There's a contradiction of success that I don't often discuss. The seeming conundrum of being lazy and being a high achiever at the same time. I often say I'm the laziest workaholic who ever lived, but I'm not conventionally lazy.
I don't sit around the television eating cheetos, drinking mountain dew, and getting fat. On the other hand, I'm also not a conventional workaholic putting in 16 hour days at the office, schmoozing and boozing with the top brass. I always work and I never work at the same time. My work and my life are so completely intertwined that I don't actually do any work, because I'm always working. That's the seeming contradiction I told you about. I work every day, every hour, every minute, but my work isn't real work.
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It's my life. I can't not live my life and I can't not work. Life and business are so completely intertwined I couldn't take a day off even if I wanted to. Every second I'm alive is another second I'm working.
But then again my business is the simplest business model in the world. That's all I do. I do it constantly, because all I'm doing is living my life. I'm kicking ass and taking names across the world, I'm not drilling cavities or pouring concrete ten hours per day. If I stopped working, I'd stop being me. I never go to work (too lazy for work) because I'm always at work. I get guys saying they want to retire by 30.
So you can sit around for 60 years doing nothing?” But not just any work – work that fires you up, work that drives you to achieve more. There's one more contradiction of success It's ok to be lazy and it's not ok to be lazy at the same time. Work can be terrible and work can be great. You can be lazy and work 16 hour days at the same time. Lazy with benefit vs lazy without benefit I told you I'm lazy, but I'm not lazy in the slightest. I just don't do things I don't like to do. A perfectly reasonable reaction to doing something you don't want to do is malaise.
A perfectly reasonable reaction to doing something you like to do is joy. Sitting in an office all day working for someone else will make you lazy and give you no benefit. So be lazy to work for someone else and don't be lazy to work for yourself. Working for yourself builds your bank account, it builds your character, it builds your future, it builds your mindset, it builds your confidence. When you succeed you feel euphoric.
No real work required. When you're so obsessed with your work it stops being work and it becomes something else entirely That's when you're on the lazy man's path to riches. And once you're on you can never get off.
You'll reach a point where there is no difference between your life and your business. The other day I asked my apprentice “ Have you ever seen me not working“? He said “ no“. Then I asked him “ have you ever seen me do any real work?” He laughed and said “ no“. It sounds like a contradiction but it isn't. I work constantly, but my work isn't real work, it's my life, so I work and I never work at the same time.
I started by just taking one step in the right direction. I simply decided to be an entrepreneur.
I changed my thought process from employee to entrepreneur. When you make the change in your thought process, everything else follows. Success, money, women, freedom. It comes to you when you believe you'll get it. But there's another contradiction of success – you have to do more than just believe, you have to take steps to achieve your goal. Belief without action is useless. Action without belief is also useless.
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Doing all the hard work of building your business is as easy as anything you do in your day. It's as hard as jumping off of a cliff and as easy as taking one step in the right direction.
One foot in front of the other, you just start today. You just start acting like a successful man. You don't side-step, you make the step.
If you plan for success you get success. It's not “acting” if you're going after your plan, it's just fulfilling your destiny.
The dummies will call you lucky. They won't understand that it's not luck if you work every day towards a goal and then achieve that goal. You'll explain that and they still won't understand. They'll say “ I wish I was that lucky. I wish I could catch my big break“. That's another conundrum of success – you work towards a goal, when you achieve it you're lucky. How do you get started on the path to luck and wealth?
That's what everyone wants to know but it's the wrong question to ask. You've already started. You started when you were old enough to form thoughts. Most people have just started walking away from what they want instead of walking towards it.
They think it's a giant leap and they don't believe they can make the leap. But it's not a leap. It's just one step in the right direction. Then one more step.
Then one more. It's just one step like all the thousands of other steps you take in a single day. Then one day they'll be sitting around the water cooler talking about Lucky Johnny who quit working and started living. Why don't people take steps every day? Because they're waiting for a step-by-step formula when all they need is a one-step formula. They think it's a huge leap to go from A to B in a straight line, so instead they go from A to A in a circle.
There's no blueprint to success that everyone on earth can follow but there are habits of success. There are steps.
Steps in the right direction. I can't turn a loser into a winner, and I don't want to It's easy. All it takes is one step in the right direction. What could be lazier or easier? Until next time. Your man, -Victor Pride — Note: This article first appeared on Bold and Determined on October 30, 2014. So powerful and deep Victor.
The narrative also created a different experience for me as a reader. Work equals life. It is fuel of a man for living Life cannot be compartmentalized, it is one. You just made a great integration, so it is not a burden for you to work.
It is part of you. I am not there yet, but I am on my way. Let me ask you, how did you know you are on the right path while you are building it? Times when you struggle how did you see the light rather than darkness?
It is just a matter of perception about how you perceive words. What they call you work is not work in your perspective, it is slavery. Great Article, Vic. Long time reader of B&D.
I’d like to add a bit! As a salaried man, you’re working for someone else. That’s when work gets tedious. Your work is separate from you, and you only get to keep a small portion of the rewards of your effort. As an entrepreneur, you’re working for yourself.
Your work then is not separate from you, it is a part of you. You keep the rewards for what you do, you eat what you kill, and you kill what you can. That’s when the line where “work” and “life” blurs. A king’s job is to rule.
However, a king is not “working” when he is ruling, he is simply being himself. Greetings Uncle Vic, Last time I commented I was living the “home free lifestyle” in my Jeep and producing daily YouTube videos per your instructions. I invested my additional income into cryptocurrency and did very well last December. I took my profit and moved to Thailand and have stayed here while traveling to Cambo, Bali, and HCMC. This article resonates with me because now my life and business are one in the same.
I produce daily videos and livestreams to help inspire Men to better themselves, leading by example. Speaking of moving from Point A to B in a straight line, I recently released my first digital product called “Straightline Mindset”. I owe you a debt of gratitude. Now that I have reached Ronin status, I will continue pushing forward to become a Shogun one day.
One step at a time, as long as it takes. Thank you Uncle Vic. Sincerely, Kris. I will share a little of my story and journey to success.
I grew up dirt poor and my family worked as ranchers. I grew up baling hay and feeding and doctoring cattle in Texas. I worked my way thru college by working 40 hours a week at an Exxon gas station and going to school full time, and very few people had this kind of drive and work ethic. I also became an Army Officer when I graduated, and I went on active duty and completed my four year active obligation. I never wasted my time watching TV, and I spent my time reading books on business. I read many books, but two of the books drove me to my success. I read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, and I read William Nickerson’s book How I turned $5,000 Into 5 Million in Real Estate In My Spare Time.
I started buying and rehabbing rental property in Austin, Texas in 1986 and by 1996 I owned 55 rental properties in Austin, Texas. I had my own sub contracting crews that worked for me, and I worked my azz off without any vacations.
I sold most of these off and I have the money in other Real Estate investments that do not require me to deal with the management. Most multi millionaires live a life well below their means.
I drive used pickup trucks, and I do my own maintenance on my trucks. I still own 8 properties, and this gives me enough time to go fishing and enjoy life. I remain humble and not arrogant thru it all. Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve. This article makes perfect sense.
I derive my livelihood through real estate investing. Specifically as a raw land developer. My livelihood and my personal life are so intertwined – there is no distinguishing the two. My life is my work and my work is my life.
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Yetmost times people probably think I do nothing. I’m convinced my neighbors cant figure me out. They burn by my house everyday at 600 am and come home on the hour at 5oo pm. My vehicle- most days – never leaves the driveway. Little do they know I can put in 40 hours and make deals that generate as much as they make in an entire yearor two or three. Oh, If there is a good deal to be had you will find me running like a raped ape,then once the deal is done – I’ll recharge.
Feel like going to the beach for the day -why not. Wife wants to go on a hike -sure. Pretty much live life according to my schedule.
Sleep in late but at night while everyone else is watching mind dumbing shows on TV or wasting their lives being antisocial on social media, Im scouting out new deals and hustling away in my office. There is nothing better than living life on your own terms and according to your own schedule. Dude, couldn’t have said it better myself. I took just a few days off to ‘chill’. Guess what fucking happened??
I felt fucking dead. Simple as that. I only feel alive when I’m grinding, and it damn sure doesn’t feel like work when I’m into it. Like this past week, all I did, morning to night, was write lyrics and record rap. In this 6 days I put out 7 bangers, and it was a fucking breeze. It was real lazy of me to not do what I don’t want to do and it wasn’t lazy at all for me to do what I want to do. I feel so fucking alive when I’m grinding, when I’m not I feel dead.
Damn right I feel euphoric. I don’t need drugs all these winning gets me high. Don’t need red bull all these flexing makes me fly. Started my blog 5 months ago, got over 200 articles and a top notch product.
I feel euphoric as fuck pouring my soul out into these pieces of art. Never worked a job more than a short bit because I couldn’t and never could. I never in my life did what I didn’t want to and now I’m 21, make enough money on my own terms, and am sailing towards my paradise island to loot those big, big treasures. Hell of a fucking sail, losing my mind every now and then, only to find it back stronger, sail for life.
My life right here, Good shit as always Victor. I found out about the blog business through you. It’s kinda funny. This is my second year self-employed. I normally live and work in a city where I have my office, but I spend some time every year in my ancestral village. This summer I’ve spent 5 weeks there, and people were all (and still are) looking at me strange, like, how can I be on vacation for so long.
I think they think either I’ve made millions already or am a lazy bum pretending to work. I kept telling them: I’m not on vacation! There’s no vacation! It’s all work and all play all the time, I just happen to be here now. But alas, they don’t get it. But I do now. I definitely do.
At first it felt somewhat weird (I took a 5 week “vacation” last year as well), that I wasn’t doing it as everyone else did, but then I figured it out. You live your life and infuse business into it. You don’t live your life around your business.
You don’t even make your business “around” your life. You live a life that earns money, and that’s it.
And I’m not even some blogger, online huckster or what have you, I’m in a very old, very conservative industry. Yet, so far, it works. It can be done people. And all you need is honesty, courage and faith.